Thursday, June 16, 2005

Pesonal Dilemmas and Stigmas

In every relationship, every kinship; the biggest problem is because of two views, viz, MY and OUR view.

I do not know how nice it would be writing with specific instances but one thing is sure; the best pals you are the best is your chance of friction. Somebody forced me to think what is the most ideal relationship; is it always about giving space; is it always about submitting; is it always about ego; about ideals u cherished for so long; about ways u make each other happy or about ways u make each other comfortable.

For this itself is the greatest problem and dilemma anybody face. It may so happen - infact most of the times it do - that in a tryst to make somebody happy u take away the comfort. Many would not adhere to my views saying that both of them go hand in hand. But with utterly happy and accomodative atmosphere you have a submissive attitude, you tend to forget your views, it become OUR VIEW and then this may harm personally. But contrary to all the above claims this OUR is the key to happy life.

The biggest problem in anybody's life is how to create a metiuculous balance in between MY nd OUR view. And then it is always the plain smoothening effect. Can this work in practical world?

Yes, to some extent when you cherish the OUR view and mould it as per MY view, things may go fine. But that is the most difficult thing one can even dream of ..............

how to keep up your personal convictions, personal views and personal ideals intact while not harming your ever cherished kinship, the OUR relationship.

I don't know how many agree with me . ......... but i agree with the views John D Rockefeller had.

The most contradictory figure I think the world ever had. The ruthless business man on one side and the benevolent and the largest philanthropist on the other hand.

He held close his religious ideal to give shape and justify both his philanthropies as well as his shrewd business practices.

The best way is to walk to the middle ............ have an OUR view and never drop your MY view ....... thats wat democracy is ........... thts wat life is .........

And yes the most common way of soughting out a clearcut fight , a clearcut friction is not always the best, u have better things to employ ur energy into ........

I agree that we disagree; still we are here for a greater purpose, so lets do it !!!!!